The loss is of a loved one a
difficult thing. My mother passed away on August fourth this summer. Though this was a time of mourning, it was
also a time when my family came together after a long separation. Despite a saddened heart, I looked forward to gathering
with family, most of whom I had not seen in years.
Matt and Jeff, my young nephews arrived a few
days before the funeral. As children
these brothers had lived with me for one year. They were four and six years of
age at the time. They are now in their
twenties, with wives and productive careers. Jeff has three young children, Holly, Gavin and
Silas. They arrived, exhausted and grateful to bunk
on my couch and floor. The following
days were filled with talk about our lives, the children and some “remember
whens”. We laughed over the time the
boys had removed their clothes so they could play in a pile of corn feed
without getting them dirty. Despite our grieving we were contented and pleased
to be in each other’s company again.
During one afternoon of togetherness,
a silly conversation grew into one of those inside jokes that families often
have. It became one of those wonderful and funny things that can only happen
among people who are comfortable with each other. A business
idea arose when my nephew mentioned a coffee shop in Seattle that features
shirtless female baristas. We laughed over this concept and ideas began to
roll. I thought a shop catering to women would be preferable; a shop where
talented male baristas shed their shirts but kept their suspenders along with
pants and fireman hats. Of course these men would be well built, muscular and
handsome. They would draw in female customers by the hundreds and we would make
a fortune. Jeff suggested the name “The Firehouse”. We continued this “business
planning” from time to time throughout the week, strategizing and laughing over
hiring methods. It was fun and it lightened everyone’s frame of mind.
We laughed a lot, but more importantly
we became close again. Plans for “The Firehouse” continue via face book. I love
this silly discussion, because it draws my nephews near again. It’s a silly
joke and I don’t think there will ever be a “Firehouse” coffee shop, but the
warmth and laughter our private little yarn ignites is worth so much more. If “The
Firehouse” ever becomes a reality, I will hang a picture of my mother on its
walls.
P.S. It was a nephew who suggested
naming my blog “The Firehouse”.
I love it Kelly! I also love those family times whatever the reason for the get together. I have lost both my grandmothers this year so I completely understand those precious moments with family.
ReplyDeleteLove it! What a fun family.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss, but glad to see that through it all your family has been able to find some peace and renew family bonds. I know from experience sometimes life gets so busy that we forget how important family is and how at any moment anyone of us can be gone. After reading your post I gave an extra long hug to my husband and children, thanks to reminding how important those quick gestures can be :)
ReplyDeleteLove the support and fun you have with your family. Thanks for sharing. Treasure your moments and hug your family often.
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